How to Write an Award-Worthy Autobiography in 5 Steps

An autobiography, in the simplest terms, is a full account of your life that you write yourself. Many of us have read great memoirs in recent years—bestsellers like Educated and Crying in H Mart—but autobiographies, specifically, are more elusive than you might think.

This is because a true autobiography contains every detail you could possibly include about your life, in chronological order. A memoir, on the other hand, revolves around a particular theme or time period in someone’s life, describing only select memories in service of this goal.

So, if what you’re really after is advice on how to write a memoir, I’d recommend this “memoir method” post from Joe Bunting. But if you’re ready to lay out the entire story of your life—warts and all—read on for how to write an autobiography in five (relatively) simple steps.

1. Make a List of Life Events

Since an autobiography must be comprehensive, you can start by listing out all the events that your book will include—that is, every major event of your life (and some minor ones too!).

The earliest events might be your birth, the birth of any siblings, starting school, and coming to realize aspects of your personality and long-term interests that emerged in childhood. The “middle” events might include finishing school, attending college and/or getting your first job, and the advent of any significant relationships—both friendships and romantic relationships. The later-in-life events might include pursuing any other big jobs or degrees, getting married and/or having children, moving house, starting major hobbies, and perhaps even retiring and planning for your “golden years.”

Again, be sure to include all the important events in your career or in your personal life. Obviously, anything that changed the trajectory of your life should be added to the list. However, the nature of each event will depend completely on who you are and how your life has unfolded.

Indeed, going back to the idea of including “minor” events, it may be that some pivotal moments in your life could seem “minor” from an outside perspective. For example, say that one day you happened to spot an unusually shaped cloud, and it caused you to have a revelation about your life and change course somehow. The revelation is the key thing, but don’t leave out the circumstances that led you to it—no matter how irrelevant they might seem.

To be fair, it can be tough to remember every event of importance, especially when some of them happened a long time ago. In that vein, take your time to make this list before you get into actually writing the book. It should take at least a few hours (if not a day or two) to outline everything to include in your autobiography.

2. Try to Recall All the Details of Each One

If you thought you were done after simply listing out those events, think again. Not to sound like a broken record, but this process is all about being thorough; in order to succeed, you need a solid foundation from which to work. So now, at this next stage, try to remember everything about the initial events you’ve listed.

Say that the average person has around 40 to 50 major life events or pivotal moments to write about in their autobiography. (If you have fewer than that, you may want to reconsider whether you’re really ready to write the whole story of your life—perhaps a memoir would better suit your purposes.) Now, brace yourself: before you start writing, you should put together at least half a page of notes on each of these points.

Sure, some events will warrant more detail than others. But this should still average out to around 20 to 30 pages to serve as the aforementioned foundation for your autobiography. And how should you expand on these events, you might ask—that is, which details should you focus on to ensure your “foundation” is truly useful?

Here are a few questions to jog your memory and help you identify what’s most important:

• Which sensory details (still) stand out the most? That is, not just how each scene looked, but how it felt at the time, to the best of your recollection. For example, if you’re recounting the experience of starting school, don’t just say what your elementary school building looked like. Instead, talk about the fragrant leaves on the ground or the chill in the September air; the sounds of birds chirping and parents chatting at early morning drop-off; that first week when you skinned your knee on the playground; etc.

• What were the people around you saying? Speaking of chatting, you’ll also need to recreate important “dialogue” in some scenes, just as you would when writing a novel. While you can’t take quite as many liberties as in a work of fiction, you are allowed to paraphrase what you can’t remember precisely. At this stage, just record the gist of whatever was said—you can finesse the details later.

• Why was this moment important? Make sure to identify in your notes why each event or moment was so important. For many of the classic “life milestones,” it will be obvious. But try to dig deeper into exactly how each event affected you… even if you didn’t realize it at the time. Articulating this will make your autobiography all the better, allowing you to segue more smoothly between events and draw more resounding conclusions about your life.

Having written up these extremely detailed notes—basically an FBI dossier on yourself—you’re now ready to start drafting your autobiography.

3. Write Chronologically From Your Birth (or Earlier)

You may have jotted down your notes in any order; indeed, you probably jumped around randomly as different memories came back to you. However, now that it’s time to actually write your autobiography, you should try to write it chronologically.

Why? Because if you want to refer to something that happened “in the past,” it’s best to know how you presented it to readers in earlier chapters. In an autobiography—as in life—each event depends on what came before it. If you jump around while writing, your autobiography could end up feeling messy and uneven, and you risk leaving out important elements simply because you skipped them on the list.

So as you draft, do it in order of events. Begin with the first life event on your list—likely your birth—or go back even further, if you wish. Many of the greatest autobiographies of the 20th century, like Lee Iacocca’s self-titled book and Nelson Mandela’s Long Walk to Freedom, begin not with themselves, but instead with their family history. Mandela’s book technically opens with the meaning of his name, but he then doubles back to describe his father and the history of his tribe, the Thembu people. And Iacocca’s autobiography begins not just with his father, but his grandfather arriving in America.

In summary: while your birth is a tried-and-true starting point, you’re allowed to briefly touch on your parents and/or family history first. That said, once you’ve established these elements, it’s time to get down to brass tacks. Dive into writing about your life, and try not to deviate from the chronology—no more family history, flashbacks, flash-forwards, or anything else that will distract you or your reader. You can still keep things interesting and “readable” by using those elements we discussed: sensory details, dialogue, and organic transitions between events.

And if you happen to remember something that would work well in a different part of the book, don’t switch gears to that part right now. Instead, just jot it down in your notes and come back to it later. You want to preserve the “flow” of writing chronologically—otherwise, again, you risk choppy prose and a subpar reading experience.

4. Weave In the Wisdom of Your Older Self

Of course, just because you’re writing chronologically, that doesn’t mean your insights in each section should be limited to the knowledge of your past self. On the contrary, one of the most valuable elements of an autobiography is the injection of present-day reflection and wisdom. Without this extra layer, your autobiography could be written by anyone.

So this is where you’ll incorporate those previous answers to the question of: “Why was this moment important?” Here’s a great example of “wisdom weaving” in the early pages of Mandela’s autobiography:

“I learned my lesson one day from an unruly donkey. We had been taking turns climbing up and down its back, and when my chance came, I jumped on and the donkey bolted into a nearby thornbush. It bent its head, trying to unseat me, which it did, but not before the thorns had pricked and scratched my face, embarrassing me in front of my friends [...] 

“Even though it was a donkey that unseated me, I learned that to humiliate another person is to make him suffer an unnecessarily cruel fate. Even as a boy, I defeated my opponents without dishonoring them.”

While the younger Mandela may not have been able to articulate (or even consciously identify) this lesson, the older Mandela understands it as a crucial moment for his moral development. Yet he explains it so smoothly that it does not take the reader out of the narrative at all—only paints a more detailed picture of the boy and man he would become.

As you’re trying to inject some wisdom of your own, here are some more thought-provoking questions to ask yourself:

• How did I feel about this at the time, and how do I feel about it now?

• Can I draw parallels between events at different times in my life?

• How have I affected the people around me, and how have they changed me?

• Is there anything I wish I’d done differently?

• What do I want readers to take away from this?

If you’re struggling to articulate what something meant to you—even if you know it was important—running through these questions might help you out. Sometimes your takeaway will be a simple moral lesson; other times, it will be a more complex tangle of emotions.

Whatever you discover about yourself, don’t shy away from putting it down on the page. Your autobiography is the place to be clear-eyed and candid. If you’re not telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth about your life, there’s little point to writing this book at all.

5. Wrap Things Up on a Contemplative Note

As your autobiography draws to a close, you may find yourself struggling with how to end it, especially if you are still relatively young. But rather than trying to fight that feeling, the best strategy is to lean into the uncertainty and end on a note of contemplation.

Consider the following: How do you feel having completed your autobiography? What’s next for you? What are you most looking forward to—or, indeed, dreading? How will you use the lessons you’ve learned to tackle the rest of your life? Will you be writing multiple autobiographical volumes, à la Karl Ove Knausgård?

You might think the answers to these questions are best left off the page. But if we’ve established anything over the course of this guide, it’s that an autobiography should strive for comprehensiveness.

On that note, remember that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have it all figured out or if you’re unsure of what’s next. Once again: Just lay it all out on the page. Readers will appreciate your honesty, and you’ll feel much more satisfied with the final result.

Speaking of which: if you really want to write a satisfying autobiography, but feel intimidated by the lengthy process, consider working with a ghostwriter to get your story on the page. What’s great about this kind of project is that you can involve another writer as much or as little as you want. They might simply advise on structure and chip in to edit the occasional chapter—or they can conduct in-depth interviews with you and take on the lion’s share of writing. Basically, your main goal is to get your autobiography out there, and a ghostwriter can (and will) help you out.

You can also use autobiography-specific editing tools to get your draft into tip-top shape. ProWritingAid is particularly useful for elevating those sensory details we talked about, with the help of its Sensory Report. You can also use ProWritingAid to improve your pacing, sentence structure, and other elements that will turn your autobiography from good to great—not just great like “better than good,” but like Mandela-level great.

Sure, it might sound like a tall order, especially for the novice writers out there. Yet with enough time and effort (and the tips in this article), you’ll find that anyone can write an autobiography—one that not only captures their life story, but also engages readers in a profound way. If you’re willing to put in the hours, your own story could be next. Good luck!